All hype aside, the male chastity lifestyle is an extremely powerful and effective way to stave off and even reverse the inevitable cooling off in almost any relationship.
You remember how it was when you were first together, I’m sure: you’d make love at every opportunity, lying together sharing secrets and soft pillow-talk until the first pink of dawn touched the sky… then falling asleep in each other’s arms.
And you both swore it’d never change.
Yet it does. It always does. Even the strongest, most loving and devoted relationships lose this initial passion and fire and settle down to the long haul. There’s nothing wrong with this – it’s just human nature. And we’ve evolved this way for a reason.
But it being normal and seemingly inevitable doesn’t make it any less frustrating and annoying, since it would seem the only solutions are not to have relationships that last so long this happens… or to have lovers “on the side“, so to speak, so you’re getting the best of both worlds.
And while these two options appeal to some people, they’re clearly not for everyone, including me.
Fortunately, there is a third answer to this problem: the male chastity lifestyle. It’s not suitable for every couple, as I’ll share with you in a few moments, but for couples whose underlying relationship is strong and loving, and who both have a sense of adventure and fun and are not too sexually inhibited it offers a wonderful way to reignite the fires of lust and passion in your life.
For me, it’s like having four honeymoons a year, and a hot, new lover always within reach (but really it’s still my beloved husband, the same man he’s always been).
So, what is the male chastity lifestyle?
Essentially it’s where your man gives you control of his orgasm, usually by agreeing to wear a chastity belt or other chastity device and giving you the key. While he’s wearing it he’s typically unable to touch himself or have an orgasm either with or without your help.
In the meantime, his duty to you and your satisfaction remains, meaning he gets to serve your pleasure in any way you see fit.
Now, reading this in the cold light of day, you might find it a bit strange, maybe feel a little nervous or otherwise think it’s far too weird even to entertain as an idea. But let me put it to you it’s perfectly natural and healthy, a lot of fun for both of you and… something you’ve already tried. Because if you’ve ever teased your man by going slowly when he was about to climax and kept him on the edge to make him squirm… then you’ve already experienced male chastity play. And you both absolutely loved it, didn’t you?
Well, the male chastity lifestyle is very much the same game as this, only played out over a long period of time.
As you can imagine, after a very short period of time your man is going to want to orgasm very, very badly. What this does is cause some dramatic changes in his brain chemistry, which has the ultimate effect of turning him back into that besotted, loving fool who can’t keep his hands off you or do enough for you… the same loving fool you fell for.
What’s more, in case you’re worrying, this is not the same as making a “sissy” of him or making him any less masculine (some couples do play that game, but you don’t have to and you can embrace the male chastity lifestyle completely separately from that, as John and I have done).
Oddly enough your man will almost certainly love the feeling of being constantly turned on. There will be times when he’ll beg you to let him orgasm, but if you do… afterwards he’ll tell you he wishes you’d been stronger and said “No!“.
The male chastity lifestyle is real win-win. You both get a lot out of it and there’s no downside. You get your hot, attentive lover back with all the ardour you remember (and then some); and he gets the thrill of constant arousal and – to be blunt about it – the best sex he’s ever had.
Because when (and if) you eventually do allow him to orgasm, it blows his mind. I allow my husband just four “weekends off” a year. That means he goes for three months at a time without having an orgasm (but while giving me plenty!).
Finally, a note of caution.
I mentioned hype earlier and also said the male chastity lifestyle is not suitable for every couple. Well, it’s not, despite what some people will try and tell you (most of what you read about male chastity is fantasy).
If your relationship is poor, if you don’t love each other, and if you have no sex life not because you’re too busy or tired but because one of you simply can’t stand the other and your skin crawls at the thought of making love to them… then male chastity won’t help you.
Because, paradoxically, male chastity tends to increase your sexual activity as a couple not reduce it – which is really the whole point! Your man is going to want more sexual contact with you, not less; and your woman is going to expect more personal attention and seemingly return none of her own.
If you can’t stand the sight of each other and there’s no underlying love and attraction, then you can see the male chastity lifestyle is going to cause far more problems for you than it solves.
Assuming this isn’t the case, though, and you’d like to spice up your relationship and rekindle that passion and desire, I strongly recommend you give the male chastity lifestyle a go.
Sarah Jameson, devotee of the male chastity lifestyle [http://www.malechastityblog.com/male-chastity-lifestyle] and writer of the Male Chastity Blog [http://www.malechastityblog.com] is a happily married woman and freelance writer. She first discovered the male chastity lifestyle with her husband 2 1/2 years ago, and now writes extensively on the subject to share her experiences and help educate other couples about this deeply satisfying but frequently misunderstood lifestyle.